Scary and Damged

There are some moments in your life, in which you just get a light, it’s as if a candle has been lit inside your head and things begin to make sense. Then there comes a whirlwind spinning and swirling around, so many thoughts and ideals come rushing in. It becomes the space in time where everything else seems to standstill until you really begin to decide what exactly is happening in your head.

It is the moment in which you feel this rush of emotion and intense feeling as to your thought process. It is the significance in which everything suddenly and strangely makes sense an equivocal revelation.

What if!? We really do pretend, as women, to not be as lustful as men, but in our own way we are actually much more addicted to the passion than men are. This lust stems from this delusional thought of that “perfect guy.”

This is the view that we see in the movies, books, and in the social settings of which girls talk about the guy they want to marry. It is the man who is tall, dark, hansom, waiting and wishing to sweep the princess off her feet. The guy who never fights and always gives in to the women. It is the man who showers her with presents and never irritates her. Where have all the “good men gone?”

It is because this guy does NOT exist

It is this notion that society has put into our heads. We have failed each other by engaging in this vicious cycle of imagination about these men our entire life. Just realizing this, I wondered how many girls are still waiting for their prince “perfect” charming to arrive. The light suddenly flashed before my eyes, and I was enlightened by the thought that, maybe, the guy that is right in front of be, is that guy, just in a human form.

This is what worries me, we fantasize, drool, and sulk about how we want the perfect guy, and how “she” has him, and why can’t I. NO every guy has his issues, and to be honest so does every girl, (maybe even more so) but it is the fact that you find that person who is loyal, loving, and spiritual to become your soul mate, not McDreamy, or McSteamy. Stop looking for some mirage to become reality. It is McVet who will really catch the girl and sweep her off her feet. This is the guy that every girl wants to spend her life with, because he adores her. This does not mean that their relationship will be perfect, (none are) it means that they will find happiness in each other, not the “thought” or desire of what each other “should be.”

We, as girls, too often put ourselves with someone else, we want those things, that society tells us men are supposed to be. Yet, we ourselves see them in someone else’s man instead of our own, whether the problem itself be lust or discontent. In tern, that guy that we seem to think is “perfect” and yet “she” has him and I don’t, we come to realize that this “perfect guy” really doesn’t exist! There will always be the flawed areas, which we may not see at first glance. The key is to be content with what and whom you have. In the words of Grey’s Anatomy “we’re all a little scary and damaged”